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couples therapy

​I am dedicated to helping couples build stronger, healthier, and more fulfilling relationships. My trauma-informed approach combines principles from the Developmental Model and Relational Life Therapy to provide a comprehensive framework for understanding and addressing the complexities of relational dynamics. Here is what you can expect with this transformative approach:

Understanding Relationship Stages: Identifying and understanding the various stages a relationship goes through, from early romance to mature love. This understanding helps in managing transitions and addressing the unique challenges of each stage.

 

Differentiation and Emotional Growth: Encouraging partners to develop a strong sense of self while maintaining a deep connection with each other. This promotes individual and relational growth by addressing emotional needs and developing healthy communication patterns.

 

Radical Honesty and Communication: Emphasizing open and honest communication to rebuild trust and resolve underlying issues. Teaching couples how to communicate effectively, fostering empathy and mutual respect.

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Empowerment and Accountability: Promoting individual responsibility and mutual accountability to foster equality and respect in relationships. Addressing power imbalances and creating more balanced relationships.

 

Skills Building for Conflict Resolution: Equipping couples with practical tools and techniques to enhance communication, resolve conflicts, and strengthen their bond. Helping manage and resolve conflicts that naturally arise as the relationship evolves.

 

Relational Empowerment: Empowering individuals to stand up for their needs while fostering empathy and understanding for their partner's perspective. Supporting couples in developing these skills to build a supportive and nurturing connection.

"Love rests on two pillars: surrender and autonomy.

Our need for togetherness exists alongside our need for separateness."

- Esther Perel

Things I Help You

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  • Relationship Satisfaction

  • Communication Difficulties

  • Emotional Disconnection

  • Lack of Intimacy

  • Divorce / Separation

  • Blended Families

  • Parenting

  • Co-Parenting

  • Lack of Trust

  • Infidelity

  • Life Transitions

  • Impact of Trauma

  • LinkedIn

About Me

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Contact

Office: 
2425 Porter St.
Soquel, CA 95073

*do not mail to this address*

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#831-251-4922

michelle@mlbpsychotherapy.com

Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist #152843

Certified Trauma Therapist

EMDRIA Certified Therapist™

Michelle  L   Bakalarski

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